Cuffed - Let’s talk Kinks 18+
Firstly, I want to establish I am no professional and this is definitely not sexual advice and this is marked as 18+ content, reader discretion advised. This blog is purely for entertainment purposes and my interpretations may differ to yours, and the only kinks covered here are ones you will find in my upcoming release, His to Tame.
I will add, there will be no kink-shaming here. It’s never ok to yuck someone’s yum. With that being said, let’s dive into it.
While writing His to Tame, I wanted to touch on some sides of my own personality with the FMC and use this as an opportunity to add some of my favourite sexual kinks that have the ability to bring a girl to her knees, literally!
So let’s go straight in and start with:
Praise
I think my obsession with praise stems from the fact my love language is words of affirmation. People with a praise kink feel sexual pleasure when things like ‘good girl’ are used as was way of complimenting or rewarding. And we’re talking euphoric, spine-tingling, toe-curling pleasure. It’s an acknowledgement. An appreciation. An adoration. It’s a want to please someone and in turn get rewarded. For me, I think it also touches on the fact I’m very service-oriented and love to please, so there’s a reason this one is number one on my list. It just ticks all my boxes. I have found that you don’t have to be a complete submissive to enjoy a praise kink - which Skylar from His to Tame is definitely not - and with that, let’s head into kink 2.
Primal Kink
There’s a lot of different ways people interpret a primal kink but for me it’s the passion, hunger and deep desperation for someone that’s so intense you leave all logic at the door and let TF loose. Savage, raw and emotion driven battle for control and this is exactly what I needed to add to His to Tame with Skylar and Elliot’s personality clashes. Primal expression can include some body play, with my favourites being choking, biting and being restrained. I feel like this is a big one to really get your head around before adding it to the bedroom and trust in that other person is absolutely essential.
Erotic Asphyxiation aka breath play and choking
Again I want to address that I am in no way a professional that is qualified to give any sexual advice and this kink can be extremely dangerous if not done correctly as any restriction of oxygen to the brain can lead to serious injury, including death. Always do your research and seek professional advice if you need to. It is often used to heighten sexual arousal and can create more intense orgasms. I found that this kink was only something I wanted to try when I felt extremely safe with the other person and they had my complete trust. With all that being said, I will say this kink is played with in His to Tame, but I’m not going to go any further into this one on this blog.
Breeding Kink
This can also be linked to primal kink and it’s exactly what you think it is. Sometimes associated with a ‘cum fetish’ it’s essentially being sexual aroused by the act of cumming inside another person without the use of protection. I will add though, that this kink is role play based and actually impregnating someone is not the end goal of playing this one out. Understanding, trust and consent is essential.
Spoiler: There may or may not be scene in His to Tame, where someone is cuffed to a desk and another someone fills her completely getting off on ‘marking her as his own’. Torn between not wanting to spill a drop, but wanting to admire the absolute mess he’s made.
Edging aka orgasm control
When one sexual partner purposely brings the other sexual partner to the cusp of an orgasm, but doesn’t allow them to finish. It’s repeated over and over, building on intensity and is one of Elliot’s from His to Tame, favourites. In Elliot and Skylar’s case, she’s restrained and his goal is to get her so sexually frustrated, she begs for release. And when that moment finally comes (literally), the high of it all is nothing short of euphoric. This can be a long, exhausting process for the person being edged and Elliot always provides his girl essential aftercare.
I want to remind you all that while these kinks are real, my book is fictional and all characters, places and sex scenes are completely made up. Always do your own research into things that interest you and educate yourself around what is acceptable behaviour. Understanding, trust and consent is essential when playing around with kinks that can border on dangerous if done incorrectly.
Please feel free to add any comments about any of the above, or add your own experiences or desires. I’m happy to talk all things kink related and this is safe, judgement free zone. And I can’t wait to share my upcoming release with you all. x
